Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

By Cassidy Camp on May 30, 2017

Let’s face it: everyone would love to be able to see their significant other whenever they please, but that’s not always feasible, especially in college. The hardest time of year for college relationships is usually summer break. It’s not only three long months of celibacy if you don’t live close to each other’s hometowns, it’s also 3 months of doing the best you can to communicate with each other through technology. So, this begs the question, do long distance relationships work? Is it worth the wait? Well, although I can’t give every answer for every situation, let me share with you my experiences.

My first long distance relationship in college was with a guy from my hometown. We had been together through high school and were going on four years dating! Crazy, right? When I got accepted into college and was going to be moving nine hours away, we wanted to at least give this long distance thing a try. We called each other every day, and we texted constantly. We’d send snapchats of basically nothing to each other just so that we could see each other. We skyped and said our “I miss you’s” almost every day, and I couldn’t wait to go home to see him. For a while.

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The truth is, when I was away from my significant other for months at a time, I kind of forgot about him sometimes. I mean, I told people that I was taken and that he lived far away, but it didn’t really seem like I was in a relationship. And apparently, he felt that way too because he ended up cheating on me. Sadly, that seems to be the punchline to a lot of long distance relationships gone bad stories, and most of the time it isn’t because the relationship wasn’t working. It’s because people start to miss companionship, among other things.

I’m currently in round two of long distance dating, which I swore I’d never do again, but it’s a different situation this time. My current significant other and I are absolutely nuts for each other and we attend the same University, but he happened to get an amazing internship opportunity twelve hours away for the whole summer. So far, things have been more than bearable. We Snapchat periodically throughout our days and he always calls me at night to ask about my day and to tell me goodnight. I know, I caught a sweet one. I think that the biggest reason that we both feel so okay with the distance is that we trust each other. When we have a concern or a problem, we always bring it up with each other, and we’re able to have a calm discussion about it. When people say that communication is key, they really aren’t kidding! We also both know exactly when he’s coming back, so it’s not an indefinite thing like my previous relationship was, which gives us both something to look forward to.

In conclusion, long distance relationships absolutely can work, but the deciding factors are trust and communication. If you’re in a relationship with someone that you don’t fully trust on their own, chances are that long distance isn’t possible for you without you feeling crazy about where they are and who they’re with all the time. Also, if your relationship is not serious enough to communicate with each other honestly about your concerns and feelings, long distance is a no-go. But if you and your partner are crazy for each other and you’re willing to rough it with them and they with you, it’ll absolutely be worth the wait.

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Cassidy is a dual degree student at FSU in the Humanities and Editing, Writing, and Media majors. She is a bibliophile and bookworm, and you'll often see her walking to class with her nose between pages of a book. Music is an important part of Cassidy's life; she's a vocalist and a songwriter in her spare time. Cassidy aspires to attend a Master of Communication graduate program after graduating FSU and, once finished with school, strives to enter the Public Relations field professionally.

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